Why Am I Still Healing From Stuff That Happened 10 Years Ago?

Have you ever been minding your business, scrolling through TikTok, and then BOOM... a random memory from 2015 hits you out of nowhere? Suddenly, you’re sitting there like, “Why does that still bother me? I’m grown now! I pay bills and have a skincare routine!”

But then it lingers. That awkward moment, that heartbreak, that “you should’ve known better” situation… and you realize, maybe you’re not as over it as you thought.

Here’s the truth: healing doesn’t follow a timeline. There’s no “it’s been five years, get over it” expiration date. Just because the event happened back then doesn’t mean your heart isn’t still catching up today.

We live in a culture that loves quick fixes. Got a headache? Take a pill. Heartbreak? Book a vacation. Feeling insecure? Post a fire selfie. Bad day? Online shopping. We throw affirmations, iced coffee, and playlists at our pain like Band-Aids on a bullet wound. And while those things can help, they don’t heal the root. Because healing isn’t just about what happened... it’s about what it left behind.

Think of it like this: if you broke your ankle 10 years ago and never did physical therapy, it might still ache today. Emotional wounds are the same way. You can walk on them, ignore them, even cover them with a cute outfit, but that doesn’t mean they’re gone.

And here’s the beautiful, humbling part: God’s not in a rush with your healing. Psalm 147:3 says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” That word binds... it’s slow, gentle, and intentional. He doesn’t just wave a magic wand and say, “You’re good now.” He sits with you in it.

So if you’re still healing from something that happened a decade ago, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re still becoming whole. It means something in your past still needs a little more grace, a little more truth, a little more Jesus.

Maybe that old wound needs a conversation. Maybe it needs therapy. Maybe it just needs you to stop pretending it didn’t matter. Whatever it is... God’s not afraid to touch it.

Healing isn’t linear. It’s more like Wi-Fi. One day you’re fully connected, walking in peace, and the next, your signal drops out of nowhere. But just because you lost connection for a moment doesn’t mean you’re not still in range of God’s love.

So give yourself permission to heal in real time. No timeline. No guilt. Just grace. Because sometimes the things that still hurt are the same places God is still working.